I really struggled with how to start this article. In fact I have rewritten the first paragraph about 5 times already. In my work with women who are going through separation and divorce there is a lot of conversation around abusive ex-partners and also trauma from a childhood with abuse history. I believe that it …
Continue reading Moving forward from emotional and verbal abuse
Have you ever been ghosted? If you have, you know it feels really lousy. Not only is it a rejection but done in the most cowardly way with no explanation. The Urban Dictionary defines ghosting in this way: When a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they're dating, with zero warning or notice before …
I haven’t slept in days. Off and on, but not a good night’s sleep. And I know why. A few days ago I saw an image on Facebook of four 18 year old young Ukrainian men heading to war. They were armed with a rifle, knee pads, warm jackets and yoga mats for sleeping on. …
I am inviting you to try something different today. To turn inward and tune into the natural energies flowing all around us. To harness these energies to help you heal, grow and create your new life as you move forward from your separation and divorce. So what can we learn from the pagan holiday of …
Continue reading Imbolc invites you to let go, heal and grow.
I can't remember exactly how long we had been separated but it was during the first 6 months, and I was having a low day. One of those days when you are constantly on the verge of tears and you know if anyone even asks you "how are you?" that you will fall apart. I …
Continue reading Being strong through your divorce can feel lonely
2021 is almost over as I write this. 25 more days and we start again. What does that mean for you? Are you setting big goals and making promises to yourself? Or do you skip it because you know it doesn't really work anyway...{sigh}? In my work guiding women who are going through separation and …
Continue reading Does this resonate with you: New divorce; New life; New you?
Sounds like a bit of a sticky combination, am I right? Definitely one that can have us reaching for another glass of wine… But the holidays are upon us and we need to figure out a way to get through this with our sanity intact, or at least some part of it. Below are some …
Recently inside my Facebook Group someone posted this: “Hoping Karma will step up soon and do her thing”. It’s not an uncommon post or theme. We have all most likely said and definitely heard “Karma is a bitch”. Seen in this way I believe the reality is that she’ll get you too. You want Karma …
Continue reading Do you want Karma to do “her thing”? Waiting and waiting…?
Today I woke up crying. It has been a while since I did that. I hardly slept so that probably didn’t help. But I also feel very vulnerable right now. Several little wounds feel open, asking to be seen and healed. Maybe it’s the full moon reminding me to shine a light in my darkest …
Continue reading Emotional balance and healing. How to find it inside yourself.
Imagine that you are writing a book about you. It’s your life story. The separation and everything that leads to it and how you go through will be part of it. And the ending still has to be written. It’s the unknown as is the journey there. But your publisher has contacted you and needs …
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