Summer time. Time with friends, vacation, outdoor fun, patios and trips with the kids. All this used to be with your ex and now you are trying to make plans for yourself and the kids, on your own. I worried so much about not being able to provide them with the fun summer they could …
Relationships can feel hard even though we want them to be easy, loving and gentle. All relationships go through changes life circumstances change and as we age. What changes are you experiencing right now that is affecting some of your closest relationships? I’m not only talking about romantic relationships, but rather all those that matter …
What does "winning" mean to you? If you read that heading and thought this is going to be about legal strategy, then you might be disappointed. However if you are ready to turn this awful life event into a win then keep reading. So many asked me after our divorce ended in a trial if …
I haven’t slept in days. Off and on, but not a good night’s sleep. And I know why. A few days ago I saw an image on Facebook of four 18 year old young Ukrainian men heading to war. They were armed with a rifle, knee pads, warm jackets and yoga mats for sleeping on. …
Sounds like a bit of a sticky combination, am I right? Definitely one that can have us reaching for another glass of wine… But the holidays are upon us and we need to figure out a way to get through this with our sanity intact, or at least some part of it. Below are some …
When I was going through my divorce I worried about that... and that they might love being with "her" more than me. She was younger and for all I knew at the time - a ton of fun. All I could see was her as Julia Roberts in Step Mom. I think this is normal …
Continue reading Do you worry about your kids loving you less somehow?
Everything changes when divorce happens. But change is not necessarily bad, it's just different. Some things may feel lousy for a while, but eventually even this starts to feel better. I am still floating on a gratitude high after this past weekend when my best friend's family, my boys and I and my husband (I …
It's almost the end of 2020 and what a year it has been. Talkshow hosts and news channels are starting to do those "best & worst" and "looking back" episodes. And so are many of us. What happened this year? What worked and what didn't? Did we accomplish what we set out to? Are there …
The world really is a different place these days. And your own personal world has turned upside down if you are going through separation and divorce. And here comes Christmas with all it's traditions and expectations of happiness, giving and togetherness. How are you going to get through it all? If you are anything like …
There are few things in life that touch us as deeply the fear of our children's mental health at the end of a marriage or a long term relationship. All the things we value most feel threatened. Financial stability, our relationships, our self-worth and, one of the scariest of all, our relationship with our children. …
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