Going through separation and divorce is hard. It’s complex, painful, often with high conflict and hostility. When someone loses their spouse to a death the community rallies and supports. The family goes to great lengths to comfort and be there for each other and no one judges you for ‘how’ or ‘why’. Asking for help …
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What does vulnerability mean to you? The definition of vulnerability is uncertainty, risk and emotional exposureBut vulnerability is not weakness; it is our most accurate measure of courage.Brené Brown Being vulnerable after a painful ending to a relationship is not easy so take your time. Wait until you know your heart is safe with you …
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How are you at making decisions? Big decisions that is.. And how are you at making decisions when you are crying several times per day and feel like your world has been flipped upside down? …ya, me too. It’s actually one of the reasons I decided to become a Separation Coach as opposed to Divorce …
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Summer time. Time with friends, vacation, outdoor fun, patios and trips with the kids. All this used to be with your ex and now you are trying to make plans for yourself and the kids, on your own. I worried so much about not being able to provide them with the fun summer they could …
Relationships can feel hard even though we want them to be easy, loving and gentle. All relationships go through changes life circumstances change and as we age. What changes are you experiencing right now that is affecting some of your closest relationships? I’m not only talking about romantic relationships, but rather all those that matter …
As I write this it’s exactly one week since I said goodbye to the 6 beautiful souls that came to the most recent Rising Moon Sisters Retreat (RMS). It has taken me this long to allow the many feelings and experiences to settle in so that I can share with you. There is something extra …
Equanimity. What does it mean and how will this help me heal? Equanimity is a word I have been studying and a mindset I have been working towards for a while. I first heard it in a yoga class a couple of years ago and had no idea what it meant. But now that I …
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What does "winning" mean to you? If you read that heading and thought this is going to be about legal strategy, then you might be disappointed. However if you are ready to turn this awful life event into a win then keep reading. So many asked me after our divorce ended in a trial if …
How honest are you with yourself? I can feel when something I am choosing to do or say is not aligned with my truth. It doesn’t feel good. I’m not talking about little white lies or simple niceties that we say every day to our children, partners etc. It’s the feeling I get when I …
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Reading about codependent relationships and realizing that what I was reading very much described me and my (first) marriage was not easy to absorb. At first I wanted it to be someone else's fault that I had been this way. If he had just been more loving then I wouldn't have had to be like …
Continue reading It explained so much once I understood that I was a Codependent in my past marriage
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